When we have been discussing an important topic about managing stress, I would like to shed light on some of the biggest causes behind this situation.     

There is a famous saying in India.  

The fabled musk deer searches the world over for the source of the scent which comes from itself.- Ramakrishna

The same is happening in today’s modern world. People are running from pillar to post for seeking peace or happiness but ignore to look within. Do not cherish or appreciate what already they have. In fact, they are chasing after one thing to another and behaving like a machine. They ignore to listen to the alarm their body and mind continually give until it burns out. There are many people who have everything but lack of time to enjoy those things. They are exhausted but forget to press the pause button of life, that has a pernicious effect on their health.  Unhealthy lifestyle is one of the main reasons for suffering. We should not ignore that our mind and body also need a break,  in order to maximize their productivity and for a good life. 

Have you ever noticed that the same job that makes some people happy, makes other distress? Why it is so? The answer is simple, a person who constantly looks at the clock rather than focusing on their work has picked the wrong career path. They feel stuck, trapped that often leads to boredom in life. They get home exhausted and mentally tired.  it’s normal some of the time but if it most of the time, it’s a warning sign of being in the wrong career.  So, the problem is not always in your job or business but what you make out of your life. So if you are suffering or struggling, then you are missing your real purpose. 

People are broken within but put the fake smile all the time. They prefer to bottle-up their emotions that behaviour pushed them into the deep depression, and they feel overwhelmed. We always do what we have always been told, even at the cost of our own happiness. 

Also, people are afraid of conflict therefore often avoid saying “No”. Many of us feel if we say no then people will stop loving us. But at one point in life, we have to set boundaries that require to lead a good life. Well, I am not saying that we should say no to everything but before accepting something, think about the implications.  Living life what others want you to have is causes of grief, stress, anxiety, and many more issues.

There are countless reasons that spur negative emotions and create stressful situations. Think about what makes you unhappy and try to fix it. Do what makes you happy and spend some quality of time with yourself. If you love painting than do it or it could mean anything. For me, I love reading and writing my thoughts on the paper that gives me sense of purpose…In fact, doing something that distracts you from the stressful situation will help you to alleviate tension. And when mind and body work at their best, you can explore many ways to overcome the stressful situation. 

Last but not least, social media has been linked to a higher level of loneliness, anxiety or depression. Now people, especially teens are more self-conscious than ever, because comparison takes place 24/7 online. 

Feeling overwhelming for a long period of time can lead to many health problems. But stress can be good for you sometimes. Here, I am not talking about depression but stress.   

Responses

  1. Adele

    I love that you backed up your writing and thoughts with quotes! The quotes fit perfectly, and they give us some more to think about. I especially like the saying from India about the musk deer. I’ve never heard it before, but it provides a great image for a common situation. And all of your advice here are things that should really be taken to heart: going within, finding your passion, not being afraid to say “no,” and doing what makes YOU happy not just what makes OTHER people happy. Thanks for providing us all with not only great advice, but you also wrote it in a way that’s easy to understand and relate to!

    Let’s look at your first sentence:

    -“When we have been discussing an important topic about managing stress, I would like to shed light on some of the biggest causes behind this situation.” –> I’m not sure that ‘when’ is the word that you want to use here, because the tenses don’t line up. It’s kind of like saying “when (at the moment) that we talked about this topic (IN THE PAST), I (now) want to talk about something else.” It doesn’t match. You could use the word ‘since’ instead.

    Since we have been discussing an important topic about managing stress, I would like to shed light on some of the biggest causes behind this situation.”

     

    -People are running from pillar to post for seeking peace or happiness but ignore to look within. –> Try to match up your verb tenses a little more. You started with present continuous, then used a gerund, then used a present simple verb. It sounds a little more smooth and less confusing if you can stick with the same kind of verb.

    People are running from pillar to post seeking peace or happiness but ignoring how they feel within.

    Now the ‘are’ works for all three verbs. It’s like saying “people are running, seeking, but ignoring” but with some more details in between!

     

    Ignore + (something) –> in the sentence above you can see that I also changed where you said ‘ignore to listen…’ We ignore something, we don’t ignore + verb. Ignore already means to not pay attention to or to not listen to something. So saying ‘to ignore to listen to’ is redundant! The same mistake shows up farther in the same paragraph as well:

    “They ignore to listen to the alarm their body and mind continually give until it burns out.”

    You can either say:

    They don’t listen to the alarms in their body and mind… OR

    They ignore the alarms in their body and mind…

     

    -Why it is so? –> remember for questions the verb comes before the subject!

     

    -Have you ever noticed that the same job that makes some people happy, makes other distress? –> be careful with when to use the noun forms of words and when to use the adjective form. “distress” is the noun, while “distressed” is the adjective.

  2. Neven

    Ranjana you touched the main reasons and the senstevies ones that most of people suffer from. The main idea is to confess about these negative and reasons for feeling unhappy or we always feel STRESS and we can’t enjoy our life. Over thinking can be also a big reason for that as well, and I always admire those people who are simple and not complicated. I also love this word as well, which is ” satisfaction“. If we satisfy our lives and what we have, we will feel happy and enjoy every moment in our live.

    We live once in a time, so enjoy every moment in our lives. Things don’t worth to be worried about😊.

    Thanks, dear, Ranjana for this inspiring blog post!

  3. Chiara Delfini

    Hello @ranjana, thank you, your blog post is very inspiring!

    I agree with you when you talk about the negative effects of doing a job without passion. The quote “your work is to discover your work” make me think. What if we couldn’t change our job? Are there a possibility to look at ourself in a positive way? I‘m wondering that the possibility to improve happiness at work belongs to all of us. We could train the eyes to focus on what we like of a job. Even if they are smallest thing we like, it would be better than nothing.

    1. Ranjana Agrawal Post author

      Hello Chiara, yes, when you train your mind to be grateful what you already have, certainly it shifts your attitude towards life.  It’s not easy to change career but possible, depends how committed are you to reaching your goal. Sometimes, circumstances are not in our favour but with a proper plan, and guidance, you can turn the wind. Find a person who has achieved the result that you want, it will inspire you to move forward.