Remembering my conversation of some time ago.
“This is a difficult subject, but thanks to Chiara, I feel more comfortable now. Especially since Chiara had very clear examples of mentors in her mind. Such as her elementary-school teacher, her Latin language teacher who said: “Feliciter … ter …ter” which means happiness, more happiness or try to do your best. Very inspiring to me, because reflecting on this, it shows to me a very positive life attitude and a good way of looking at life.
A good mentor’s quality is not being judgemental but trustworthy, approachable and open-minded. The last one I think is quite important as it goes hand-in-hand with judging people in case they differ from the way you think.
We didn’t talk about what is more important: a powerful speaker or a good listener. However, we concluded that both need particular skills and aren’t easy. A speaker should have an extensive vocabulary, be a fast thinker and with an engaging personality.
A listener, on the other hand, should actually listen and not think ahead of “what should I say to that” but wait instead and pay attention to what is being said. A listener comprehends what the other person is saying, processes it and responds accordingly.
In Italy, tutor programs ensure that students who have left school without finishing it go back to school to learn a different skill.
There are also ‘negative’ mentors, those that do discourage you to follow your dream and at the end of the day, you wished you hadn’t listened to them.
The lack of mentors at key moments on one’s life is paramount to further development in the life of a person.”
Concluding note: I’m so glad I conversed with Chiara. Inspiring! I also learned what mentorship means in Italy.