Hi Ladies today I had a conversation with @Pinar, who is an amazing lady, by the way. I would like to thank her for that moment that gave me the motivation to write this post about mentors.
Well, in my life I’ve met many mentors who have contributed to be what I am now: an accomplished and happy woman from the personal as well as the professional perspective. They have influenced me and have played a very important role in my life. They have showed empathy and have supported me when I was in bad way. They have been a good ear for me. They have understood my needs and have showed me what they thought a good way to reach my goal. Those people are the ones who are always close to me in spite of the distance. Those people are, my parents, sisters, brother, husband, friends, my PhD supervisor, some colleagues, and my children; even though they are too young. Each time I am upset my four-year-old daughter feels it. She comes close to me, looks at me in the eyes and smiles while saying “mum I love you so much”. Suddenly, all the bad feelings go away. That’s why I am saying that our children can also be mentors. My husband is also my mentor. After my second delivery, I was very stressful, tetchy, and often tired. He has encouraged me to go to the gym. He has given a hand with the home tasks and has taken care of our kids. As a result, I have free time for myself. After each workout, all the stress, the tiredness, and the negative energy vanish. So I come back to home with positive energy plus patience and much love to show to my kids and husband. By doing that, my husband has played a win-win game (a joke!). However, in this blog I want focus on other kinds of mentors. The temporary mentors in your life. The imagine that comes to my mine when I think about them is the train and the railroad switch. Our life is the train and these persons are railroad switches because they change the track of our train. The ones that you meet for very short period of time, but they change your path. I will tell you tow stories and I hope they will make my point clear. When I was sixteen-years old, my teacher of philosophy impacted me deeply and positively. He was the first person who opened my mind to think about and question the absolute truth. He was a strange and surprising person. Indeed, he didn’t hesitate to shock us by talking about “taboo” or making us doubting about our believes. I’m really grateful to him because he helped me to build my critical mind, to think by and for myself, to believe in the relative truth, and to respect the others’ believes.
After my master degree in Tunisia, I wanted to go abroad to enroll in a PhD program; even though, I hadn’t money. France was my destination because I loved this country, I wanted to experience living there, and also they had the cheapest university fees for foreign students in Europe. I worked during one year to save money for my project. I sent a lot of applications and I got accepted. I was extremely happy. The French embassy rejected my visa demand without any convincing reason, though. I was deeply sad and I lost hope. After few days, I met a friend and she asked me about my project. So I told her all the story. She said: “Why don’t you send an Email to the consul where you explain your motivation and ask for the reasons of their rejection”. It was a such great idea. Right away, I wrote an Email with a lot of sincerity and hope. Guess what! The consul replied to my Email and asked me to try again. It worked, can you believe it! My life changed thanks to the suggestion of that friend that I’ve lost along the way. I haven’t seen her since that time, indeed. Now I have a Ph.D and I’m an associate professor thanks to an Email! To wrap up, I think that every person that we meet, positively or negatively, directly or indirectly influences us. Every encounter is important, so we need to be sincere because we are all mentors of someone at sometime. Even simple things can change lives!